Finding “The One”

Last week, Laura and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary.  While that hardly qualifies me to start offering marriage advice, it does mean I have a thing or two to say about dating.  In fact, the one question I’ve gotten more than any other during that time has been some version of, “how did you know Laura was ‘the one’?”  Whether or not you agree that there is only one person God has designed you to marry (for the record, I do believe that), it’s still a good question.

And I have a simple answer.  It comes in the form of a question I asked myself before Laura and I even started dating.  I was hanging around the house one afternoon feeling sorry for myself that I wasn’t dating anyone when I had a thought I believe came from the Holy Spirit, “Who is the godliest girl you know and why are you not dating her?”

Wow.  Talk about a helpful and convicting question!  The answer wasn’t hard.  It was Laura – I had admired her character, love for the Lord and desire to serve for years.  What was hard was dealing with my own heart.  I wasn’t dating her because I was still caught in the extended adolescent phase that traps so many 20 and 30 somethings.  I loved Jesus but wasn’t sure I was ready for a really serious relationship.  I wasn’t sure I was ready to settle down with a godly woman.  I wasn’t sure I was ready to grow up and be a spiritual leader for Laura.

But I never could shake the question.  Ultimately, it made me take a look at my life, get things together and ask her out.

I hope you can’t shake the question either.  Who is the godliest person you know and why are you not dating them?  Yes, it might force you to do a little growing up.  But the rewards are so worth it.  Honestly, you owe it to yourself to ask the question!

Running For Time Or For Distance?

There are two different ways to workout on a treadmill.  You can either run for time or run for distance.  In the first case, the goal is to simply keep moving for an allotted time.  It doesn’t matter how fast you go or how far you go – just keep moving until the little countdown clock gets to zero.  In the second case, the goal is to move a set distance.  When you cover the distance, you’re done.  Doesn’t matter if it took you 20 minutes or 2 hours – it wasn’t about filling time, it was about covering distance.

The last thing I’m trying to be is your personal trainer.  But I do want to ask this question: which approach do you take to your work day?

Are you just running for time?  You’ve got to be there from 9-5 so you’re going to be there from 9-5 no matter what.  You’ll put in the time but the results are secondary.  Who cares how much you got done or how much value you added…let the boss worry about that!  Or are you running for distance?  Are you trying to accomplish certain things every day?  Do you give yourself the freedom to leave early if you get everything done you wanted to accomplish?

Are you results oriented or just doing time?