A friend texted me the other day to ask how I was doing. My response was a pretty accurate summary of how I feel most days, “You know – just trying to be a good husband, father and pastor all at the same time. Feel like I usually get two of the three right any given day. Would love to figure out how to do all three!” God has entrusted me with three main responsibilities in life: being Laura’s husband, Jack and Aidan’s dad and the Pastor of Restoration City Church. It’s a constant juggling act and, truth be told, I only have the ability to keep two balls in the air at any one time.
That’s always bad news for at least one ball. Some weeks, I neglect the church for the sake of my wife and kids. Other weeks, I neglect my wife for the sake of the church and kids. Some weeks, it’s the kids who get put on the back burner. Trust me, I would love to serve all three groups well at the same time. I just can’t.
Maybe you feel the same way?
What I need to be reminded of on a daily basis is that real power in life is found just on the other side of “I can’t.” When I stop at “I can’t”, life seems hopeless. My response to my friend should have included one more line. “But God can.” It’s pride and self reliance that makes us think the answer is found in improving our juggling skills. I realize now, more than any other time in my life, that only God can give me the power to live the life I want. I dream of being a great husband, dad and pastor. But I’ll never get there in my own strength. It’s only through the power of God in my life that it’s possible.
God knows we can’t live this life without Him. That’s why He’s given us the Holy Spirit to be our Helper, “And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Helper, to be with you forever.” (Jn.14:16) God has placed the Helper we need deep inside our souls.
Stop trying to keep all the balls in the air by yourself. You can’t. Balls drop. People get hurt. You end up defeated, frustrated and depressed.
But there’s more power in you than you can image. “If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you.” (Rm. 8:11) There’s a life giving, resurrection Spirit inside of you. He’s the hope and strength you and I need for today.
What are the primary responsibilities and relationships God has entrusted to you? Are you carrying them all well? Are you willing to allow God to supply you with the power you need?