Now as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village. And a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to his teaching. But Martha was distracted with much serving. And she went up to him and said, “Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Tell her then to help me.” But the Lord answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.”
I have come back to this passage over and over again as we press deeper into this period of social distancing. I keep coming back because I keep seeing so much of Martha in myself. Her issue isn’t that she’s working. That’s not what this passage is about at all. Martha’s problem is that she’s distracted, anxious, and troubled. That’s what Jesus points out. That’s what Jesus wants to lead her out of and it’s what He wants to lead us out of as well. I keep coming back because I need the daily reminder that the one thing we truly need is the one thing that can never be taken from us. I keep coming back to hear the voice of God, the voice that melts anxiety, fear, and distraction.
And I’m not the only one who needs to keep coming back to this truth. We all do. I read an article yesterday that told us that 43% of American adults say their emotional health has gotten worse over the past week. For what it’s worth, I also think that means 57% of survey respondent are either (a) way more spiritually mature than I am or (b) lying. You decide! But I don’t know anyone who isn’t feeling a little distracted these days. It’s where our hearts and minds naturally go during times of uncertainty and upheaval. And, now, we have 24/7 internet access to relentlessly fuel it all.
All of which means we need to cultivate rhythms that enable us to sit at the feet of Jesus and listen to His voice, even in the midst of a pandemic. He’s speaking through the miracle of His Word and the presence of His Spirit. He’s inviting us to believe that He’s real, to believe that He’s still good, and to believe that He’s still for us and not against us. He’s inviting us to make King David’s prayer our prayer during this time:
Teach me your way, O Lord, that I may walk in your truth; unite my heart to fear your name. I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart, and I will glorify your name forever. For great is your steadfast love toward me; you have delivered my soul.
Those rhythms are going to look a little different for each of us but here are a few that I’ve found helpful:
Getting up at the same time I always do to spend time with God in the quiet of the morning.
Only allowing myself to check the news and social media twice a day. For what it’s worth, this is the hardest one for me!
Pausing 2-3 times during the day to be still, to pray, and to read a short passage of Scripture.
I absolutely can’t wait to start our new series, Breathe, at Restoration City this Sunday. We’re talking about the three things that seem to create the most anxiety in our lives – time, money and the future. I’m trusting God to use these three weeks in massive ways in the life of our church. We’re doing this series for two reasons:
1. We Need It As A Church.
I feel like there are a lot of us burning the candle at both ends, running on empty and not experiencing the fullness of joy Christ promises because we’re spending so much time worrying and filling up our lives with things that don’t really matter. My biggest prayer for this series is that we would all have room in our lives to say “yes” to the things God is putting in front of us in 2015. This series is a chance for all of us to make sure we don’t miss out on everything God wants to do in our lives this year.
2. Your Friends Need It.
This series is designed to make it as easy as possible for you to invite people to church. Yes, we want every Sunday to be welcoming and accessible for people who are new to church and Jesus. But there are a couple of times every year when we want to be especially intentional about that – new years is one of them! So, don’t just plan to be at church this Sunday. Pray about who should be there with you…and then invite them! Would love for this to be a month of us welcoming new friends into the Restoration City family.
If we all rally around this series, it could be a game changer for our church. Don’t miss out on Breathe!
Exactly one year ago today, a group of people got together at Summit’s Chapel Hill Campus to talk about planting a church in DC. It was the first public step we took on the road to planting Restoration City Church.
I remember walking into that day with absolutely no clue what was going to happen. I wasn’t a 100% sure anyone was actually going to show up. And I really wasn’t sure how many would be interested by the time we were done!
One year later, I love scanning this photo and seeing how God has knit people who were total strangers a year ago into a church meeting weekly in DC. It’s been an amazing ride that I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world. But if I could go back in time and talk to myself a year ago, I know what I would say:
Get Over Yourself. Jesus is the One who builds His church (Mt. 16:18). Sure, vision, strategy and leadership matter but the success of Restoration City Church has little to do with me and everything to do with Jesus. A year ago, I was worried about being impressive. Today I would much rather have people impressed with Jesus.
Stop Worrying. One, it doesn’t accomplish anything (Mt. 6:25-34). Two, Jesus is faithful. (Deut. 7:9) It’s so strange that we all think the God who has never once dropped the ball might just start with us. If God calls you to do something, He’ll get you where you need to go. A year ago I didn’t know what the road ahead looked like and it freaked me out. Today, I have no more clarity about the road, just more confidence in the One who leads us.
Have Fun. Don’t get me wrong – this last year was great! Laura and I have so many good memories of our time at Summit and in NC. But sometimes I don’t fully enjoy this moment because I’m so focused on the next. I keep thinking about tomorrow and missing out on today. Honestly, I don’t know that I’ve made much progress on this one! But I know the ability to slow down and present is a really big deal.
If God is leading you into a new season, take a deep breath, relax, trust Him and enjoy the ride. It really is an amazing thing to walk through life with the Living God. RCC is one small example of His power, His faithfulness and His mercy.
It’s not hard to tell the difference between people who genuinely like you and those who are nice to you because they want something from you. I remember the girl in college who was super nice to me…because she wanted to date my roommate. I’m tempted to be really nice to people considering joining our church because we really need more leaders. When I compare those interactions to the joyful shout I get from Jack when I come home, the difference is striking. He’s not after anything. He’s just glad Dad is home.
Which is a better description of your relationship with God?
In the sermon on the mount, Jesus says this, “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.“(Mt.6:33) It’s a wonderfully comforting verse at the end of a passage where Jesus takes dead aim at worry and anxiety in our lives. He’s arguing that our Father in heaven knows what we need and will care for us. We don’t need to eagerly seek after the things of the world. We need to eagerly seek after God.
But how much of our God-seeking is really stuff-seeking? Are we pursuing God because we love Him or because He’s a better means to the same old ends? I’ll confess that I frequently descend into caring more about “all these things” than I do “His kingdom and His righteousness.” What about you?
By the way, if we can tell when people are using us to get something, I think it’s safe to assume we aren’t fooling God. If you’ve been trying to use God and fool Him, it’s time to repent. Attempting to use God is the height of arrogance and pride. It’s time to confess your attempted manipulation to God and ask Him for a heart that loves with pure motives. Ask Him to have mercy on you and lead your soul to a place where it pursues Him because of who He is not because of what He can do for us.
When we understand that God is more valuable than all of His gifts, worship explodes in our hearts and Christianity finally starts to make sense.
When I’m feeling stressed or overwhelmed, my natural tendency is to try getting as much off my plate as quickly as possible. I’ll do anything to relieve the pressure, including pushing off decisions I don’t absolutely need to make today. Call it intentional decision procrastination.
Or we could call it what it really is: a terrible idea!
Postponing a decision rarely relieves the stress of having to make the decision – it only guarantees you’ll carry the stress longer. In deciding not to decide, I’m giving myself one more day to think it over, dwell on all the ways it could go bad, envision all of the people who could be upset and think over how much it could cost me if I make the wrong decision. I end up wallowing in the stress I’m trying to reduce.
Yes, there are times we can’t make a decision today because we need more information. I totally understand and agree with that point. But I’m not concerned with those decisions because they don’t produce the same anxiety. My mind really can punt those until I do more research, hear back from someone or see the outcome of another decision. We arrive at some decisions slowly, through prayer and with outside counsel – great, no need to rush those. But my guess is those aren’t the ones eating away at our joy.
I’m talking about the decisions where we already have all the information we need. In some cases, we even know what we’re going to decide. We’re stalling. We don’t need more information. We just need to decide. For example: When are we having dinner with that couple? Am I going to break-up with this guy? Do I go to my friend’s wedding? Am I buying a new printer or not? Should I approve that purchase at work or not?
Where are you suffering from decision procrastination?
Take some time this weekend to make a list of decisions you’ve been putting off and then…decide. Right then, right there. Make a decision, communicate it and be done with it. You’ll feel a whole lot better as the stress of indecision fades.
Jack has developed a little habit that really needs to go. The boy seems to think Laura and I are on a mission to starve him. For the record, I totally understand that crying is a baby’s way of communicating. I totally get that Jack prefers shouting to crying – fine, his prerogative. What I don’t understand is why the shouting continues while he’s actually being fed. There he is, strapped into his high chair, food in front of him, me feeding him and still shouting between bites! In goes the applesauce and rice cereal, it’s happily swallowed and before I can get the next spoon to his mouth…a yelp. It’s like he’s compelled to make sure I understand he’s still hungry, needs more and if I stop now, it will be bad news for all of us.
Let’s be clear – it’s not the volume that’s killing me. It’s the lack of trust. We’ve never not fed him! Laura hasn’t slept through the night since the Super Bowl to make sure this little guy gets fed enough. We’ve got enough food. We love him. Even with all that, he thinks I’m somehow going to hold out on him. Maybe he’s afraid I’ll forget, ignore him or just cheap out. I’m not sure but I’m pretty much offended whatever the case may be.
Of course, I tend to treat God the same way.
Matthew 6:8 tells us our Father “knows what you need before you ask him.” Yet, I still think He’s going to come up short, not come through, forget what I need, hold out or leave me hanging. If you watch your prayer life closely, I’m guessing you’ll notice the same thing. We are way more focused on presenting our needs than resting in His love.
Yes, our Father wants us to bring our needs to Him. But He wants us to do it confident of our standing in Jesus. He wants us to come boldly to the throne of grace trusting in His character, His goodness and His love for us. You might call this “gospel conscious praying.” In Christ, we aren’t orphans begging to be noticed. We are beloved children of a limitlessly good Father in heaven.